Hi Shane, I hear where you’re coming from, your opinion is valuable! We believe there should be both elements. Celebrating someone is just as important as grieving them. However, when grief is numbed or neglected, there is a problem. What we found is that when people take the time to PLAN a celebration for their loved one, there is a lot of processing involved — more so than simply opting for a cookie cutter funeral that inspires no deep or meaningful conversations. So for us, it’s more about the PROCESS of planning, rather than the celebration. That’s where the medicine is.