Comments on: The REAL Value of Funerals That We Fail To Communicate https://blog.funeralone.com/news/real-value-funerals-fail-communicate/ The official blog of funeralOne, a world renowned personalization, technology, and aftercare company for the funeral and cemetery professions. Thu, 14 Feb 2019 19:19:13 +0000 hourly 1 By: Rilee Chastain https://blog.funeralone.com/news/real-value-funerals-fail-communicate/#comment-719782 Thu, 14 Feb 2019 19:19:13 +0000 http://blog.funeralone.com/?p=12404#comment-719782 In reply to Claire Kyte.

Thanks Claire!

]]> By: Claire Kyte https://blog.funeralone.com/news/real-value-funerals-fail-communicate/#comment-719751 Thu, 14 Feb 2019 11:47:02 +0000 http://blog.funeralone.com/?p=12404#comment-719751 Nice Blog!! The content you have shared is very elaborative and informative. Thanks a lot for sharing such a great piece of knowledge with us.

]]> By: Eric Butler https://blog.funeralone.com/news/real-value-funerals-fail-communicate/#comment-649963 Tue, 27 Mar 2018 16:35:43 +0000 http://blog.funeralone.com/?p=12404#comment-649963 Great article, concise. The one word that I have stricken from my funeral vocabulary (and not that I’m suggesting anyone else do the same) is closure. Closure. Hmmmmm. I’ve gotten used to saying “resolution” instead. Some level of resolution, moving in that direction. Why? I don’t know that I’ve ever had “closure” after the death of someone I’ve loved. And I don’t know that I want closure. Just my take, that’s all. Thanks for the great article.

]]> By: Funeral Planning https://blog.funeralone.com/news/real-value-funerals-fail-communicate/#comment-638528 Mon, 22 Jan 2018 11:28:05 +0000 http://blog.funeralone.com/?p=12404#comment-638528 I totally agree with you and thanks for sharing a beautiful article.

]]> By: Allan Stearns https://blog.funeralone.com/news/real-value-funerals-fail-communicate/#comment-637798 Wed, 17 Jan 2018 14:42:33 +0000 http://blog.funeralone.com/?p=12404#comment-637798 As a Certified Celebrant, I conduct an average of 4 Celebrations of Life each month. The families that choose this route appreciate the personalization of the service. Many do not have a religious tradition or affiliation. But they insist on some element of the service to address their, sometimes, abandoned faith experience. When they hear their loved one’s stories (gathered by me at a face to face meeting), and they hear some of their loved ones favorite music at the service, they find comfort. There is also a release of guilt that perhaps they did not want to face by not having a service of remembrance.
Many people that the deceased person knew, outside the family, want to attend a last opportunity to express their care for the deceased and to tell the family how much the deceased meant to them. I try to avoid the use of the words ” funeral” and “goodbye”. I call my service a Celebration of Life – not a celebration of death.
All my services are brief (25 minutes) unless there are extenuating circumstances like a long eulogy or an endless parade of well wishers wanting to say a “few” words. People do not like to be preached to at a Celebration of Life, even when scripture is used. This is not the time for an alter call, or an admonishment from a preacher that the visitors need to find their own way to salvation. Inject humor if possible and this disarms the mourners from feelings of total sadness.
I seek to raise smiles as the mourners hear the stories from the past and they can picture themselves together once again with their dad, grandma, or fishing buddy.
Lastly, as a non-director, I do not meet with families initially during the purchase and planning meetings. The directors need to explain the above reasons for a service of “remembrance and celebration”. The extra cost will pay for itself time and time again as the family recognizes the value that they received from sharing their loved one’s life one final time.

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